FIVE THINGS WE WILL LEARN
- Why children long for both their mother and father, even in homes filled with love and stability.
- How modern family structures—divorce, donor conception, surrogacy, and same-sex parenting—create engineered losses for children.
- How Genesis 2 reveals God’s unchanging blueprint for marriage, family, and child wellbeing.
- Why the sexual revolution prioritized adult desires over children’s rights, and the painful outcomes now being voiced by grown children.
- What repentance, sacrifice, and a return to biblical design looks like for singles, married couples, those with same-sex attraction, and those who divorced without biblical grounds.
THE BLUEPRINT OF GOD’S DESIGN FOR CHILDREN
Katy Faust speaks with rare clarity and compassion because she lived the tension herself. Raised in a home with two women who loved one another faithfully for forty years, she acknowledges their kindness, generosity, and steadfast presence. They attended every game, every concert, and every milestone. She loves them both deeply.
But even in a loving home, she carried a wound that love alone could not patch: she missed her father every single day.
Not because she was abused or neglected.
But because she was deprived—by design—of the daily presence of the one man whose voice, strength, smell, affection, and authority she was created to need.
This built-in ache is often called father hunger. And it cannot be cured by having two mothers who are kinder, richer, or more progressive than the average dad. It is carved into human nature by the same Hand that fashioned male and female “in the beginning.”
As Katy now hears from thousands of children raised in modern family structures, the ache she felt is not unique. It is universal.
THE VOICES OF CHILDREN: “WE WERE ENGINEERED LOSSES.”
Children of same-sex parents, donor conception, surrogacy, and divorce are now adults—and they are speaking.
And what they’re saying is heartbreaking:
- “I love my moms, but I would trade everything to know my dad.”
- “I love my two dads, but I still cry on Father’s Day.”
- “I have everything money can buy, but I was bought.”
These sons and daughters were not accidents of tragedy—they were engineered losses, created through choices adults celebrated as progress. But the children who lived inside those choices now tell us the truth:
Their wounds were built into the design.
GENESIS 2 IS NOT A SUGGESTION — IT IS THE PATTERN
Scripture gives us a blueprint:
“So God created man in His own image… male and female He created them… Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
From this one-flesh union emerges the only institution that reliably gives a child:
- a mother,
- a father,
- together,
- in a low-conflict marriage,
- loving the child they together created.
For thousands of years—across cultures, continents, and civilizations—this was recognized as the basic structure of human flourishing. Not because ancient people were bigots, but because reality is stubborn:
Children need both the masculine and the feminine.
Children need the daily complementarity that reflects the image of God Himself.
Children thrive when their mother and father remain together.
When we abandon this blueprint, children—not adults—pay the price.
THE FALSE PROMISES OF THE SEXUAL REVOLUTION
We told ourselves a story:
- Love makes a family.
- Adults deserve whatever family shape makes them happy.
- Children are resilient.
But now the children have grown up, and they’re telling us the truth:
- Surrogacy taught them they were a commissioned product.
- Donor conception taught them that half their ancestry has a price tag.
- Same-sex parenting taught them they must celebrate the very arrangement that deprived them of a mother or father.
And they have one sober, heartbreaking question for the church:
“Why didn’t you fight for me?”
THIS IS NOT ABOUT HATING ANYONE — IT IS ABOUT LOVING CHILDREN
Katy makes clear: this is not anti-gay rhetoric.
Her own mother is gay. Some of her closest friends are gay. She carries no hatred.
But she refuses to pretend that adult happiness and child wellbeing can be separated. The sexual revolution told us they could. Reality proves otherwise.
Every major crisis in our society—crime, addiction, mental illness, suicide, educational collapse—repeatedly traces back to one pattern:
the absence of a child’s married mother and father.
There is one remedy:
Return.
RETURN TO THE ANCIENT PATH
Return to the truth that marriage is not a reward for adults in love—it is a sacrifice for the children that union may bring.
Return to Jesus’ teaching that the way up is down—the way to life is through the narrow gate.
Return to the understanding that building a family on a child’s loss is not liberation; it is harm.
WHAT FAITHFULNESS LOOKS LIKE IN REAL LIFE
Katy calls for a path of sacrificial obedience—one that honors children and God’s design.
If you are single:
Be chaste—for the children you may one day raise.
If you are married:
Stay—for the children who depend on you.
If you experience same-sex attraction:
Live the sacrificial love that says, “I will not build my happiness on a child’s loss.”
If you are divorced without biblical grounds:
Repent; and where possible, reconcile—for the children who still need both parents under one roof.
The world calls this oppression.
Jesus calls it discipleship.
And the narrow gate is still the only gate that leads children home.
CHOOSE THEM — THE CHILDREN ARE STILL WAITING
After ten years listening to the motherless and fatherless, Katy can no longer stay silent. She refuses to watch the church trade truth for cultural approval. She refuses to allow activists to use her mother’s relationship to silence her testimony.
The children are still waiting.
Waiting for adults to choose them over comfort.
Waiting for a church brave enough to tell the truth.
Waiting for mothers and fathers to bind themselves to one another, and to the children they create.
Waiting for a civilization that honors what God established in Eden and fulfilled at Calvary.
Choose them.
Choose sacrifice over self-actualization.
Choose Genesis 2 over cultural trends.
Choose the path God gave from the beginning—
for the sake of the little ones He placed among us.
The children are still waiting.
Let’s stop making them wait.